Jeff Fine

Sex In a Loving Relationship: So Pleasurable and So Complicated

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In this episode of the TotalSelf Considered, Jeff Fine interviews Mike Moran, Licensed Psychotherapist & Sex Therapist, Certified Emotionally Focused (EFT) Couples Therapist & Supervisor, Inner Bonding Facilitator and Creative Arts Therapist. Jeff and Mike unpack models of sexual response and sexual scripts, and discuss the interconnection of our sexual and relational cycles while providing examples based on real-life cases. They also address other key issues such as whether there really is such a thing as being sexually incompatible with your partner, and how partners can learn to safely stretch their boundaries while being respectful of each other and themselves

Talking about Sex: Complicated, Uncomfortable, Necessary

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In this episode of The Total Self Considered, Jeff Fine interviews Zoya Simakhodskaya, a psychotherapist specializing in couples therapy and sexual relationships. An experienced therapist, instructor, and EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) practitioner, Zoya brings her insights from many years of working with couples and educating therapists about the importance of addressing sexual issues in relationships. Jeff and Zoya discuss what goes into a healthy, satisfying sex life and why people avoid talking about sex. Together, they break down common patterns that lead to issues in sexual relationships, and the personal, social and cultural factors that complicate the issues, and share some advice for couples who may be struggling.

The Anatomy of a Couple’s Fight: Triggers, Perceptions, Actions, and the Unspoken Softer Feelings Underneath

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Why do so many couples fight about the same things over and over? What are the obstacles to sending clear emotional signals that allow partners to respond to each other with empathy and compassion? How can partners learn to work together to defeat the common enemy in their relationship, the negative cycle?

In this episode of The Total Self Considered, Jeff Fine interviews Wendy Tomkiel, a certified EFT therapist and supervisor who is also trained in AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy), and ISTDP (Intensive Short Term Dynamic Therapy). Wendy and Jeff breakdown the anatomy of a couple’s fight, by explaining the primal wiring that all humans have, and the ways attachment needs shape our reactions to each other. Through typical examples of negative cycles, they pinpoint how EFT helps couples slow down enough to see their own movements in a cycle, and access more options when they start to fall into old patterns.

Emotionally Focused Therapy: A Roadmap for Distressed Couples

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In this episode of The Total Self Considered, Jeff Fine interviews Dr Laurie Freeman,
a licensed psychologist, certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist/Supervisor (EFT), and
a certified Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapist (AEDP).
Jeff and Laurie breakdown how this approach works and discuss why the outcomes after
therapy are consistently positive. They also present a vignette of a distressed couple going
through a series of agonizing negative interactions, explain the dynamics and patterns
underneath, and highlight how EFT can help the partners to resolve their underlying issues.

Caring for the Caregivers

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Caring for the Caregivers At some point in life, many individuals find themselves caring for fragile loved ones: an aging parent, bedridden spouse, child with special needs or sibling with mental illness. Support services have failed to keep up with growing need, and responsibility largely falls on family members. Despite memory-worthy moments of intimacy, caregiving […]

Rules of Engagement: How to Fight Fair? (audio)

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How to Optimize Your Physical and Emotional Health—the TotalSelf Method (audio)

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